“She asked for it.”

Written By: Kathy Nguyen

If you see a young woman wearing red booty shorts and a crop top on a hot weather and she gets raped on that day, do you think she was asking for it? If you see a young woman drinking a lot at a party and got raped on that night, do you think she asked for it? Well, society blames the raped victims because of the rape culture and victim blaming. The rape culture is a culture where the media supports the sexual abuse by normalizing male violence against women and blaming the victims for causing their own abuse. A real life example of the rape culture can be lyrics to a song that can influence the idea of raping someone or make rape sound “normal” because it happens every day. Victim blaming is when other people blame the victim for causing the rape. Examples of victim blaming are the clothing that the women were wearing at the time of the attack or drinking too much. No woman wants to ask for rape. No woman wants to be taken advantage of regardless of what they are wearing or doing.

A famous rapper named Rick Ross had a lyric to a song called “U.O.E.N.O” that seems to promote date rape. Rick Ross rapped to the lyrics of “Put Molly all in her champagne/ She ain’t even know it/ I took her home and I enjoyed that/ She ain’t even know it.” Society believes the lyrics was about drugging a woman with molly and taking her home and raping her without her knowing it. As you know “molly” is the powder or crystal form of the drug Ecstasy or MDMA. MDMA is used to promote sexuality and the feeling of being “close” to another person. Therefore, the lyric to a song coherently shows the condoning of rape, which makes perpetrators or rapists to think it’s okay and “normal” to rape a woman regardless of what they were doing or drinking or not.

I am tired of how society blames women for what they are wearing because it will mislead men thinking that they are “asking for it.” Sometimes on a 95-degree sunny weather, women want to wear clothes that make them feel cool such as shorts and crop tops. No women want to wear sweats and a jacket on a hot day, that’s crazy. Sometimes when women want to have a nice time with their friends at a party, they would want wear a short dress. No women want to wear a long turtleneck sleeve with tight jeans to a party where they dance, that’s uncomfortable. Men get excited when they see women wearing revealing clothing that shows some of their skin, thinking that women are asking for sex, but they’re not. Clothing shouldn’t matter. Women just want to feel comfortable and happy of what they are wearing regardless of where they are or how hot the weather is. Women deserve to be treated with respect.

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20-year-old India Chipchase

Women who drink and got raped are victims of “victim blaming.” In 2016, 20-year-old India Chipchase was raped and murdered by a 51-year-old bookkeeper named Edward Tenniswood. People started to lose their sympathy for Chipchase when they heard that she was drinking six Jagerbombs in ten minutes on the night that she was raped and murdered. Chipchase was blamed for her own traumatizing event that led to her death because she was drinking. How do people just turn their head 180 degree once they read that the victim was “drinking?” Nevertheless, the rape culture excuses the horrible rape that was done to Chipchase because alcohol was involved.

How can we help fight against the rape culture and victim blaming? Well, we as society should speak out and expose someone or something that seem to promote rape or make a joke about rape. We should listen and analyze the message behind the media about women such as lyric to songs just like Rick Ross’ song “U.O.E.N.O.” We should let the rape survivors know that it is not their fault for the abuse. Also, we should definitely believe that the rapists are responsible for their crime instead of making excuses such as blaming the victim because they either drank too much or wear “revealing” clothing.


Works Cited

Sieczkowski, Cavan. “Rick Ross Date Rape Lyrics In ‘U.O.E.N.O.’ Stirs Controversy.” The Huffington Post. TheHuffingtonPost.com, 26 Mar. 2013. Web. 08 May 2017.

Vagianos, Alanna. “A Woman Was Raped And Murdered. Why Is Her Drink Count Relevant?” The Huffington Post. TheHuffingtonPost.com, 25 July 2016. Web. 08 May 2017.

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7 thoughts on ““She asked for it.”

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  1. I found this post interesting because it talks about an issue that our society often avoids to address. I liked the example that you used of The Sun headline because you can clearly see them blaming the victim for what had happened to her. I agree that we need to start approaching rape with a different attitude and stop blaming the victim and instead holding the rapist accountable for their crime.

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  2. I get so upset when people use victim blaming. It is literally so dumb. It’s like saying you were walking down the street and a sniper shoots you. Are people still going to say it’s the victim’s fault for just walking???? That they shouldn’t have been walking down that street. It does not make sense because they literally did nothing wrong or purposely enticed the shooter to kill them. The same goes for rape. In the end it was the rapist who CHOSE to rape someone. The victim did not tell the rapist to rape them regardless if they were wearing something provocative. There should be more laws to help protect victims and society needs to change their views on victims of rape.

    – Mary Surivong

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  3. When I learned about this in my Gender Women’s Studies class it shocked me too. It shocked me with rage to know that this whole rape blame is treated as a a joke and how it reversed back on the girl. I get so mad when people use the victim blame excuse. Like no there’s shouldn’t be no victim blaming!

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  4. When I learned about this in my Gender Women’s Studies class it shocked me too. It shocked me with rage to know that this whole rape blame is treated as a a joke and how it reversed back on the girl. I get so mad when people use the victim blame excuse. Like no there’s shouldn’t be no victim blaming!

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  5. When I learned about this in my Gender Women’s Studies class it shocked me too. It shocked me with rage to know that this whole rape blame is treated as a a joke and how it reversed back on the girl. I get so mad when people use the victim blame excuse. Like no there’s shouldn’t be no victim blaming!

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  6. Reading your article got me upset and makes me want to do something to change how our society thinks about things. Someone very dear to me experienced this and it hits pretty hard, but I’m glad you spoke about it. It’s very true how society brings this about and it’s not okay. – James Baidoo

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  7. After reading your article I realized that our society is so messed up that we now blame nearly everything on the victims. The victims are just having a good time and making choices that seem harmless to them. They didn’t choose for situations like this to happen. It should always be the perpetrators fault because they choose to follow through with their actions.

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